The Omnipotent Child
Praised by one reviewer as "the most helpful book on bringing up children you're likely to find," The Omnipotent Child is a realistic and practical guide to remedial parenting, based on the author's forty-plus years of experience as a child psychiatrist.
In this book, the author, Dr. Thomas Millar, argues that children need discipline as much as they need love if they are to grow up. The book is not filled with platitudes such as "always find something to praise" or "give him more love." And it is written by a professional who studied the neurology and psychology of child development for fourteen years and then refined that knowledge in his long career as a child psychiatrist and parenting consultant.
As Dr. Millar has said, "my experience has taught me that people who go looking for advice on how to rear their children love them or they wouldn't be looking. They don't need to be told to give their child more love. They need somebody who knows the down-and-difficult details of parenting as those in the trenches know them, and can tell them what to do about things when they aren't going well."
The Omnipotent Child goes beyond just loving your child - it looks at how to train your child so that he or she develops the strengths to cope with the steadily widening world. Children need patience and self-control to cope with life. The Omnipotent Child has a lot to say about how to train your toddler toward patience and self-control.
Children also need to grow out of the natural egocentricity that surrounds them as infants - when they think they are the sun and the rest of the family are planets orbiting about them. The Omnipotent Child has a lot to say about training children to learn how to accommodate as members of the family, not its center.
When children manage to develop patience and self-control, and when they see themselves as a member of the group, not the center of the universe, they come to accept that they must obey reasonable rules, and they learn how to stand up to unreasonable control - such as from playground bullies. They build the equipment necessary to cope with life, and every moment of coping brings a sense of accomplishment. It is this honest sense of accomplishment that brings increased maturity and, ultimately, strong self-esteem and a sense of one's value. And is that not what all parents want for their children, that they grow to be coping, mature, capable, and happy adults?